The word “no” can be terrifying to a highly sensitive person. It can be seen as a sign that they are not as good as others. This can cause them to think they’ll never fit in and that no matter how hard they try, they don’t deserve good things to happen to them. That’s the power that rejection has for some sensitive people.
They incorrectly see a simple rejection or negative experience as a statement of who they are. This can lead to many damaging behaviors. Don’t let this happen to you. Here are a few things you can do to cope with rejection as a highly sensitive person.
Don’t Expect Rejection
We all have a tendency to create self-fulfilling prophecies. This isn’t just the case for highly sensitive people. Your subconscious thoughts can create your reality by driving your behavior.
You expect something bad to happen. You obsess over it. The event hasn’t been experienced yet, but you are certain the outcome will be terrible.
You are setting your highly sensitive brain and central nervous system up for failure. By the time you are in the experience, you have very little chance for an enjoyable outcome. Don’t expect rejection. Expect a good resolution and a positive experience.
Embrace Being Highly Sensitive Instead of Seeing It As a Negative Trait
No one likes to be rejected. This is a negative experience that can trigger painful emotions. For a highly sensitive person, it can be devastating. To minimize the reaction to rejection, embrace who you are. Celebrate those times when your highly evolved senses deliver a positive outcome.
Believing that this trait is positive rather than negative leads to wonderful results.
It improves the odds that you will have more positive than negative experiences. We see more of what we expect to see, and that means positive thinking leads to more positive results. The second thing it does is minimize your response to rejection. You tell yourself everything’s okay and that your highly sensitive system will recover quickly.
Don’t Hide Your Emotions
You are unique and beautiful. All people are. You should celebrate who you are every day. That means if you have a strong emotional response to rejection, don’t try and hide it. Let it have its moment in the sun. Bottling up your emotions can increase your sensitivity to rejection. You don’t want others to see how it affects you.
This could cause you to withdraw from society. You don’t want to get out and about because you are concerned that if you experience rejection, you will be ostracized because of your emotional response.
We are different from each other in so many wonderful ways. No two people will respond the same way to most experiences, including rejection. Don’t run from your emotions when life doesn’t turn out as planned. Let the emotions out, and tell yourself that a positive experience is just around the corner.
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