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The first step to managing toxic people is understanding what it is that makes them view you as prey. Understand, this doesn’t mean you are to blame. However, there is something about you that has caused this person to latch on. Perhaps it’s because you’re too nice to put your foot down, it could be fear or something else. So, think about what it is about you that could potentially invite toxic people to try and take advantage of you. Now, let’s take a look at some common tactics of toxic people and how you can manage them. 

 

• They Keep You Guessing

You never know which version of this person will appear. One day they are the nicest person on the planet and the next, they act as though you kidnapped their favorite belonging. There is no obvious explanation as to why their attitude has changed, you just recognize that it has. You can ask what’s wrong, but they’ll tell you there’s nothing wrong. You might even make excuses for their behavior. 

 

Don’t try to please toxic people. They know exactly what they’re doing and they will have you jumping through hoops. Leave them be and approach them if their mood changes. You don’t control their feelings, nor are you responsible for them. If you have genuinely done something to hurt someone, then you can apologize and talk about it. A toxic person will keep you guessing, and that’s not helpful. 

 

• They Will Manipulate You 

Do you feel like you’re the only person who is actively contributing to a relationship? Then, you might be right. Toxic people are adept at manipulating people into making others into believing that you owe them. They’re also incredibly good at doing things that hurt you but selling it as an attempt to help. This is something that often occurs in a professional environment. The toxic person makes out as though they are doing you a massive favor, but what they’re really doing is putting you in an impossible situation and acting as though it’s to your benefit. 

 

Don’t fall for this, you don’t owe anyone and if someone acts like they’re doing you a favor, but it doesn’t feel like one… then, it isn’t. 

 

• They Don’t Own Their Own Feelings

Projection. They project their thoughts and feelings onto others. In this situation, it’s you. They feel angry, but instead of owning that they accuse you of being the angry one. They will force you to prove yourself. Just remember this, you don’t need to justify or deal with an accusation. That is clear projection. You’ll know when it’s happening because you will find yourself constantly defending yourself against accusations that make no sense.

 

Thanks for reading,

~Veronica

 

P.S. Is your workplace have toxic people that are draining you? Perhaps it is time that you make a change. You can only change yourself because they aren’t going to change. They have the right to be who they are. If that is not working for you, time for you to take some action rather than complaining.

Let’s brainstorm your “Quit My Toxic Job” Plan. If that is something that would help you, hit reply and change the subject line to “Quit My Toxic Job”

The first step is admitting what is….is. The second step is creating a strategic exit plan

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