The red flags you see in a relationship aren’t always a sign of trouble. You may still be able to have a successful and happy relationship, even if your relationship does have some characteristics that could cause issues for others.
Sometimes, what may be red flags for some don’t apply to others. Plus, you may have a healthy system for overcoming challenges before they become too big for you.
Consider these red flags:
1. Your family hates your partner. One common red flag in a relationship is that your family disapproves of your partner. However, this doesn’t mean you have to separate or break up.
* Does your family dislike your partner? Do they criticize them every time they see you? Although your family may not approve, it’s not an indication that your relationship is doomed.
* It’s important to evaluate your family’s comments and consider the past. Does your family always disapprove of your relationships? Do they always have a negative comment about your dates? If you notice an unhealthy pattern, then you may doubt your family’s concern.
* If only your family has issues with your partner, it’s possible they may not be ready to see you in a committed relationship.
2. Your partner is a collector. Does your partner enjoy collecting toys, gadgets, or other items?
* A partner who is a collector may be a red flag for some because it can mean an obsession. However, not all collectors are overly obsessed with their items.
* Before you end a relationship over this red flag, have a serious discussion with your partner. Bring up your concerns and determine how this hobby may affect you in the future.
* A hobby that involves collecting items can be fun and safe. You should be concerned if it negatively affects your partner’s job, finances, family, or friends. Otherwise, consider helping them with the collection or starting your own. Collecting can be a great way to bond and share interests.
3. You’re worried about age. If you’re very young or old, concerns about age are common. In addition, if you and your partner have a great difference in age, then you may be worried about this red flag.
* Age differences aren’t an automatic reason to end a relationship. You may be mature and strong enough to handle them.
* Your family and friends may not approve of your relationship because of age differences. They may also feel you’re too young or old to be in relationship. However, it’s important to focus on your partner and not allow outside influences to damage a happy relationship.
4. Your partner resembles your parent. Does your partner have an uncanny resemblance to your parents? Do they look or act in a similar way? Although this may be a red flag in some instances, it doesn’t mean you’re automatically doomed.
* If others notice the similarities between your partner and parents, you’ll have a hard time ignoring them.
* However, if you love your parents and have a healthy relationship with them, then your partner’s similarities aren’t an issue. Couples have built successful relationships and marriages despite resembling each other’s parents.
* You may simply be more comfortable in a relationship with a person who is familiar.
* You may also discover that external appearances and similarities aren’t an indication that your partner is a clone of your parent. Your partner and parent may have completely different personalities and backgrounds. This may not have an impact on your relationship or future.
Red flags aren’t always an indication that it’s time to end the relationship. You may be able to embrace the quirks and live happily ever after.