“Good job!”
We all love getting validation. A kind word or show of support can be especially rewarding at work. Looking for validation, though, is a bit more complicated. While accolades are wonderful when they’re given out organically, hunting for ways to get them can only hurt you and even hold you back. Consider these factors:
You Look Too Much Like You’re Sucking Up
Everyone knows when you’re trying to make the boss like you by agreeing with everything they say. This includes your boss. While some employers or managers might feel flattered by the attention, for the most part, it just doesn’t say much about your character. You’re better off relaxing and just being yourself. After all, it’s you they hired, not some clone of themselves.
You Show a Lack of Confidence
If you’re constantly checking to see if you’re doing well, those around you are going to start thinking you don’t know what you’re doing. Over time, this might lead to fewer opportunities and even jeopardize your job. Instead, remind yourself you did your best and trust your boss to tell you if you’re not doing okay.
Fakes Tend to be Found Out
So, you pretended to know what you were doing so no one would find out you were less than capable in some area. Unless you’re a super quick study, this kind of thing is only going to come back to bite you. Sooner or later, you’re going to trip up. Now you’ve not only shown your ignorance but a distinct lack of integrity as well. You would have been better off to admit your lack of knowledge and showed an eagerness to learn instead.
You Wind Up with Too Much On Your Plate
If you’re never saying ‘no’ because you’re hoping to look impressive, you’re going to land yourself in trouble fairly fast. Too many deadlines too much work will wear you down, leaving you exhausted and stressed. They’re also a sure recipe for disaster as things start slipping past and deadlines are missed. You do better to say ‘no’ on occasion and do a stellar job with what you have.
It Shows Poor Leadership
If you hope to deflect disaster by pushing the blame onto those around you, hoping you’ll still come out looking good, think again. A lack of responsibility never goes well and is a sure sign you’re not management material. It’s far better to step up and accept the blame and show a willingness to learn from the experience instead.
You Lose Allies
If you’re talking down those around you, hoping to make yourself look better, you’re only going to be seen as someone who can’t be trusted. Forget networking or finding a mentor. Your better option? Build up those around you – that’s the key to forging successful relationships.
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